Monday, March 21, 2011

When food doesn't interest me...

Well, not me. its Si Bunga.
Picky eater, one thing not wanting to eat, thats the major thing!...
Si Bunga has been refusing to eat for a while. 
Bukan tak makan langsung, just she'll eat like 3-5 spoons and then dah, taknak makan dah...


It is very very extremely frustrating when you see your child taknak makan...worrying too...
We've tried different dishes, at the same time cooking her fave food.
and still, she eats very little. 


Oh yes, she does like those babyfood dalam jar...(which makan pun ikut mood, tapi lagi banyak dr biasa)...


Then Fitri saw this parenting portal, Parenthots (which is under The Star) is organizing a forum 'How to get your child to eat healthy'..and we decided to go there. 


It was soo useful as the panel discuss on picky eaters and suggestion in getting them to eat healthy food, and at the same, answering questions from fellow mothers like me...


In a way, it was a relief knowing that you are not alone in getting your child to eat (eating healthy is another part)...
Agak menyenangkan when the good pediatrician also said "don't over analyse things. as long as the child is happy, healthy..." 


They even suggest ideas on how to get your child to eat. The article about the forum is here.
As i was surfing the portal today, i saw this great features as well. 


One of my questions was also answered post forum via email (the portal is beginning to be one of my fave portal :-P) : 


Paediatrician Dr Hon Mun Cheng answers one of your questions:

Is my anxiousness in getting my child to eat making her avoid food?

Yes, I'm afraid anxiousness on the parent's part can contribute to irregular feeding patterns in a child. A child's development include learning how to eat and regulating the amounts of each meal by themselves. Therefore, when the parent introduces this new "activity", they must be calm and composed.If the child detects stress in the parent, it will result in increased stressful feelings in the child which will lead to the child associating food with stress.The child can develop infantile anorexia which is defined as a feeding disorder of separation and is characterized by food refusal by the infant with intense conflict in the mother-infant relationship over issues of autonomy, dependency, and control. It occurs after the infant has learned to regulate himself and has established an attachment to the primary caregiver. The characteristics of the parent include having the perception of a child with poor appetite, being demanding of attention,being stubborn and difficult during feedings. The parental anxiety is expressed as coaxing the child to eat more, distracting the child with toys to induce the child to eat more, feeding around the clock, feeding different types of food or force feeding the infant.


5 comments:

beautifulLIFE said...

anne, dahlia dah kurang makan ke sekarang?tp she's still bam bam to me!heee..me as u know la i have that prob since adlina was 1 1/2...worried till i cant manage to worried anymore..i just try and try..one thing i like to do is.. buat cucur with everything in it..veggies+fruits!hahaha..and dia tak tau pun..try la..sometimes i gave her mee sedap (mee goreng tuh) but without the serbuk flavoring tuh ..rasa mcm am a bad mom ajer..but itu jer source carbo yg dia mkn..besides nasi+only chicken soup with no chiken..haaa..penin!

the dreamer said...

Hey u r not alone. Don't get frustrated mommy. Luqman paed always remind me to cook his meal wholeheartedly n sincere bla bla...when he refuse don't get mad n sad n all..if u consistent he'll see it eventually enjoy every taste...itu yg dia slalu remind me la haha

U know Luqman pun sama..dia ada mood. he will gobble all up for the whole week then the next week he only eat little like 3 or 4 suap je.

So I gave up the thought of he might be hungry n under nourish long time ago hehe

now I cook the same food that we eat, the only thing we modified- no chili, less salt. If we hav spagetthi meatball, he'll hav it too, if I cook steam fish and vege, he'll hav his share too. Senang jugak kerja I..masak sekali for the whole famili :) So far he's not refusing any..just the amount sometime byk other days sikit. But now he's catching up too...

Just to share

Bidadari said...

Sha, a'a Dahlia tgh jadi picky eater. sometimes dia makan banyak, at times mmg dia takmo makan langsung. worries me sometimes. ut she does ove her biskut, milo, and cheese... :-)

Nana, thank you for sharing. i'm learning to be less concern...which is slowly. *sigh*. dahlia mmg sangat susah makan and she most of the time takmo makan what we are having. try pun taknak sometimes.

mizmaleya said...

anne, jadi si bunga dah start makan tak skrg? auji pun skrg dah mula jadi picky eater. ada tu hari yg dia tak nak makan langsung, susu aja.

Cik Puan Bidadari said...

maliah, sorry baru buka blog ni utk lihat comments. si bunga masih lagi picky eater. we all pun tak tau nak bagi makan apa dah. we do try serve sayur and vege tapi mmg dia takmo langsung. so sekarang ada makan sikit-sikit but takdelah memenuhi nutrisi harian. except mmg minum susu often enuf.

kalau tahan dr bg minum susu pun, dia akan tahan lapar and takmo makan juga.

saya dah sampai tahap tak tau nak buat apa kengkadang.

jangan give up ok? kita dalam kapal yg sama ;-)